The Greatest Love Of All: The Journey To Loving Yourself CompletelyPublished by on Thursday, August 9, 2012 at 6:00 am.
When you first heard Whitney Houston’s 1986 cover of George Benson’s “Greatest Love Of All,” chances are the you really didn’t realize the weight of the message that was behind the beautifully sung lyrics. I found the greatest love of all, inside of me—sounds cliché but love really does manifests from within. But the process of truly loving yourself unconditionally is a process. A hard, painful, process that yields amazing results.
Many of us think we love ourselves, but we really don’t. An on-going pattern of bad romantic relationships, issues with loving your children, keeping bad company—all of these are by-products of a deficit in self-love. Yes it is easy to blame the person who caused us pain, but the common denominator in all of your issues is you. Embracing mutual accountability is a hard practice, but important for self awareness and growth. Realize, that we can’t always claim the role of the victim.
So when does the journey to loving yourself begin? It starts whenever you make a concrete and focused decision to kick it off. What’s the first step? Make time to yourself. Yes, you might have kids and a mountain of responsibilities, but carving out personal time for yourself can be as simple as a five minute meditation or as grand as taking a solo vacation. Taking a moment for yourself is not selfish, it’s necessary. How can you truly love someone else or bare your soul to anyone, if you don’t love yourself completely, and your soul isn’t grounded?
Using the stuff that has started to make itself apparent during those moments of your “me-time”, it will then be time to identify and list your strengths and weakness. The things you love about yourself, and the things you don’t love about yourself. This will prove to be an on-going process, but you will need to create a realistic plan of action to begin to embrace those positives (if you haven’t already), and shake loose the negatives. It’s not enough to just name our flaws. Please internalize: Naming the things that you, and others, might know to be your flaws, doesn’t give you a pass to continue the foolery.
Learn. Correct. And Correct some more.
The process of truly getting to know who YOU are, and ultimately loving that person, is what allows us to get to the place where we can truly love and appreciate others. So starting today, challenge yourself to love yourself completely—because the people who you attract will meet you on the same plane.
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all
…and indeed it is
- Suezette Yasmin Robotham/Justin Dwayne Joseph