What does it really mean to be someone’s girlfriend? It’s 2011, and the title of ‘girlfriend’ has depreciated much like the value of homes has during these rough economic times. I ask this since I am always asked: “Why are you a 30-something and single?”

What am I really missing by not being labeled? Are men really taking this title seriously, or is it just an okey doke?

Reviewing the men that have tried to get my attention, a fair amount of them either have a girlfriend or are involved in some ambiguous type of situation, that might as well be a deemed a relationship. Am I supposed to settle for that? Seems like a setup for endless drama and unnecessary emotional distress to me.

Case in point: Let’s take my good friend Craig, a 32 year old, who admitted to me that he is more faithful when he is not a Boyfriend. Apparently, as soon as he is in a relationship he then gets the overwhelming need to smash everything else in sight. Craig’s man law is: “I’m not married so it’s not cheating.” Crazy, right? What’s the point of being in a relationship, if the Craigs of the world are the only available options? I need answers…

Of course my mind dramatically jumps to “ I just won’t be anyone’s girlfriend, just a friend.” But maybe that’s a bit drastic, since I would like to be a wife one day—and you gotta crawl before you walk.

But while I wait for the right situation, I will subscribe to the following promise: “I will not entertain any ambiguous friendships with any men that are involved in a relationship or ‘complicated’ situation. I will not listen to: ‘It should be me and you,’ ‘I’ve always loved you,’ and ‘She doesn’t make me happy like you do’ rhetoric.”

Single ladies, what do you think? Are you with me? Let me know…

 —Nicole Spence

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