What Sistas Wanna Know, What Brothas Have To SayPublished by sueZette Yasmin Robotham on Wednesday, September 8, 2010 at 2:54 pm.
Knowledge is power.
I’ve recently been on a quest to bridge the communication gap between men and women through my XY and XX Perspective posts. Last week, I hit the facebook superhighway and asked the ladies two questions, “What do you wish that men understood about women?” and “What do you wish you understood about men?” While, they did a fantastic job with both questions, I’ve decided to mix it up a bit and ask one of my male friends to reply to the questions from the ladies regarding what they wish they understood about men.
Meet Joe Bee, one of my married (2 years strong) male friends. Joe is one of my favorite sparring partners and he definitely gives me some awesome words of wisdom when dealing with things of an XY nature. I sent Joe the list of things that the ladies said that they didn’t understand about men to get his insight. Check out what Joe has to say.
Why do some men like to keep their exes available as options?”-Rachić, Single
Because men—like astronauts—always like to return to places that they’ve planted flags. That and the ego of men allow them to (foolishly?) think that they were in fact the best their ex ever had. Add that to the fact that it is better to dance with the devil you know than to tempt a new demon.Therein lies the answers (and in case you missed it, it’s easier to holler at the chick that you know than it is to holler at a newer chick that you don’t know).
“Why does it seem so emotionally easy for some men to be with multiple partners at the same time?”-Patrice, Single
Men are taught from a young age to view physical interactions as limited in scope and consequence. It comes from sport. You commit the act during the play at hand then yup move on to the next play with little or no thought about the previous play; same with some men and physical contact. Once we engage in the contact and the play is over he moves on. You say but wait, I asked about the emotional connection… you sure did but what you should know is that sometimes the emotion doesn’t even enter the equation because it was just another play.
(Follow Joe Bee on Twitter: @joebriggsesq)